The first thing I thought was, "Wow, this guy has got to be a barrel of laughs."
But then the husband explained why. His friend said that he doesn't joke because there isn't a joke or humorous comment out there that doesn't offend somebody somewhere, and really there's no place for offensive behavior in professional situations.
I've been thinking about that statement for a while. You see humor, well that's who I am. I am really not a person that takes life too seriously. I am constantly making jokes. And humor, well that's my coping mechanism when life gets a little tough. It's how I survive.
However last year, my humor got me in trouble. You see I lost a whole group of friends because apparently they weren't too pleased about my jokes concerning things happening to me in my life that I posted on my blog. It was a pretty painful, isolating experience. And after remember this experience I really had to pause and think, is there really something to this not using humor?
For days I thought about this question. Then I happened on a Dr. Suess quote put up on Facebook by a wise friend named Myrna Weinreich.
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter won't mind."
You know sometimes I think the universe speaks to us just when we need it, just when self-doubt starts to take over. All you have to do is listen carefully. I'm just glad I was listening the day I found that quote. For after listening I came to a conclusion. My humor making? Well, it's here to say. It's who I am. It's really not something that I can ever change without completely losing me. And just as the universe wants the man who doesn't like to use humor in professional speech making, maybe the girl who writes funny things about her life is just what the universe wants as well.
And just in case you thought I got a little too serious on you with this entry...
And just in case you thought I got a little too serious on you with this entry...
Da Husband called me late tonight hours after his soccer game ended to tell me he was going to be late because he's getting advice about Da Boy's soccer career from one of his fellow players.
I replied, "Oh, so that's what they call 'drinking beer with my buddies' now." Who knew?
I replied, "Oh, so that's what they call 'drinking beer with my buddies' now." Who knew?
7 comments:
great post, Kelly! some people say that humor is always at somebody's expense. I think that is why so many funny people make themselves, their spouses, kids, etc. the "target" of their own jokes. Definitely a balancing act. I think the Dr. Seuss quote sums it up pretty well. Keep being yourself, girl... the same old rehashed bs isn't what many of us want to read or hear :)
Humor is great! I'd agree that it generally doesn't belong in a professional situation - or at least you have to be VERY careful with it. But on your blog or with friends? Go for it!
I love the Dr. Suess quote.
Kelly, thanks for your note! I'm the vehicle, the channeler so to speak. It's the light that gives it to me and the light that gives it to you in perfect timing. :)
Bet you can see lots of signs. They're all around us always! :)
Thanks again and lots of love to you.
Myrna
Kelly ..
Loved the quote!
Two things:
1) The speaker who uses no humor, I wonder how many people really listen to him.
2) The lack of humor in his speeches/lectures not only suggests an unwillingness to speak for himself, but also not utilizing creativity, either.
Deadpanned deliveries = boredom
Laughing riots = people might pay attention
Great quote - I am gonna print that out and laminate it and put it somewhere I can read it when I blog.
Thank you!
I need a few laughs every day, definitely. It is just so much better that way. Makes good stuff more fun, and lightens the rotten stuff a little.
Kelly,
This is great. Really gives you some food for thought.
I don't think humor is used often enough. Seriously. Especially in books. Or life.
When I'm threatened or angry, I get sarcastic, really sarcastic. My husband says it's hard to keep angry when he's laughing so hard.
Sometime you need that ability to laugh to put things in perspective.
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